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Cravings


If promiscuous sexual encounters fills the void, we then become preoccupied with sexual deviancy. If shopping or material
possessions fills the empty void, we then become addicted to materialism. If chance taking is our temporary way of staving off
pain and sorrow, we then become addicted to gaming or theft.

There is a war being wagged between two orientations. Call them "
good and evil" if this is your choice.

When most discover the true harms imposed by the various addictions that humans engage in, one of the first places they
visit is the spiritual realm hoping to find a savor that will relieve them of the guilt placed on them by religiosity.

However, with the advent of various ideals of what religion is, how it should make one feel often causes confusion that gives
us permission to give up and return to what worked before.

Therefore, religion is not the answer for everyone, but rather, is often the cause of relapse. In that, life is religion, therefore
we are religion. We religiously get up each morning to drink coffee, eat, smoke, brush our
teeth and perform a host of rituals to start our day. Religion, therefore, is what leads us back to the old ways of thinking and
doing the same thing over and over again.

Where there was once direct contact with the first to become conscious, there is now a hole that beckons to be filled.
Adverse addictions then rally to be a substitute in place of that connection. Therefore, one must understand that no form of
religion can substitute for our loss in The Garden of our Eden, where we "fell" into the separate selfish-self and its desire for
physical sensate.

Adverse addictions have been allowed control through both the physical as well as the psychological passageway from the
time our spirit-self first "jumped" into these earth-suits.

When an individual seeks to denounce an adverse addiction, or better stated to replace a harmful addiction with a healthy or
beneficial addiction, cravings or desires of the self constantly fight to maintain its hold as it grows stronger to regain its
control until a stronger willingness denounces its hold upon us.

However, cravings or desires will never totally subside in our present state of development. They can be better managed if
given signs to recognize their triggers, but never totally arrested. Whether a person is addicted to gaming, food, lack of food,
shopping, sex, self-will, drugs or a host of other adverse addictions, these triggers are all related.

During the process of recovery one must stay accountable to others in order to allow enough space and time between the
symptoms of relapse and recovery. Between these two objectives there will be the cravings that all addicts must face in this
battle of wills being wagged through them.


Listed below is a group of ideals that may help in the struggle to overcome addiction;

1. Cravings are a byproduct of all forms of addiction. They usually continue on and off well after physical withdrawal from
addictions are complete.

2. Cravings can be stimulated or triggered automatically if a recovering person experiences certain situations that were
strongly associated with his/her patterns of former use. (Examples; A certain smell, feeling, place, even a color can trigger
the sub-conscious mind into becoming fearful or careless.)

3. For an addict, occasional use, even with milder forms of their former addiction tends to keep the craving triggers alive.
This is why controlled use, such as, “I’ll just engage my addiction one more time for old time sake” is not only dangerous, but
will lead back to a full blow relapse, simply because once an addict always an addict out of control. Cravings are like fire,
they are just too powerful to toy with.

4. Gradually being exposed to craving situations and not using, with the help of strong support and good planning, can work
to weaken or extinguish the triggers.

5. Therefore, complete abstinence, which means not using at all, is the surest and quickest way to reduce the craving for
good.

6. Certain old triggers that have not been properly dealt with, such as the “old neighborhood” you return to for the first time
in years, can remain strong even after years of abstinence. Even certain smells, emotions, people, places and things can
cause relapse. Just like the cowboy walking through the horse barn, one must be careful where one steps!

7. Determination and willpower are poor defenses against craving. Change your lifestyle, gain new friends and support.
Learn new ways to relax and have fun. Find new ways of becoming a healthy productive and growing person. Join a club.
Read, find a hobby do whatever you can to take your mind off of the cravings, besides creating a new and harmful addiction
along the way! This can reduce cravings and their dangers. Real strength grows with time, work, guidance, and support.

8. You might slip. If that happens, get back on the recovery road IMMEDIATELY. You should have a plan to follow if you do
slip. A slip does not mean that you have failed or have wasted your efforts. It simply means that you must learn from it and
will probably need to make a better plan to get more support.

9. Even though adverse craving are a natural occurrence in our present development, (is why you are here) you have been
granted the power of choice. You can take steps now to reduce addictions power over you. It has been conquered. You now
have a choice. You can either remain addictions willing victim, or you can allow the power of knowledge to help you
overcome destructive desires. However, it is up to you to decide!

If you believe that relapsing will gain you attention, and you feel the need to be attended to, the world is filled with co-
dependent people. These co-dependent people desire to keep you sick in order for them to feel better about their own-self.
Therefore, if you wish to dance, they will lead you back to the gates of your self-hell.

If you give yourself a reason to relapse, you will relapse. Period! Play the tape out. Remind your-self that it is humanly
impossible to manage an adverse addiction. Ask your-self if you really want to go back to that dark and lonely place again.
Better yet, take it one day at a time. Even better yet, set an alarm to go off in twenty minutes. You just managed to stay free
from addictions grip for twenty minutes. Now set the alarm again and do not stop until the craving is gone. Before the day is
over you will have a day free from your captor. Some days are going to be harder than others, but rest assured there is
hope waiting for you.

Think about not using. Write down everything you can remember about the havoc your addiction, your self-will has caused
you and your loved ones. Now make a list of all the things you could have done in the time you wasted chasing your
addiction. Write down your plans to spend that same time, money and effort to do something fun. Dream big! Just be
realistic. No trips to the moon!

Each time you feel the addiction monster tugging on your ear, rebuke the tester. You just filled your entire day, and after a
few more days of this you will have begin to rewire the way your sub-conscious mind focuses on the spiritual mind, rather
than continuing to stagnate in the material realm.

One of the first realities I wish my reader to understand is that we are
spirit beings having a physical experience. An experience that is
preprogrammed to fear that which causes us confusion. How we
learn to cope with this fear is the key to our development.

The sub-conscious mind dictates how people react to various fear
based stimulations. Often it appears that harms done in childhood, or
pass incarnations play a key factor in a persons ability to cope with
stress later on in life. Therefore, whatever we believe removes the
pain, is what we naturally continue to engage in.

If inflecting physical pain on our-self gained us attention from others
and appears to alleviate our emotional pain, we then continue to
inflect physical pain on our earth-suit for the same result.

If eating allows us to feel complete, or whole, we become addicted to
food as the source of our healing or protection from the pain.
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